Thursday she called me at work. Now normally if one of the homies call me on my cell at work, I’ll answer…because I know they know I’m AT WORK, so we're going to have to make this quick. This particular person will talk and talk regardless of the situation. And because I know this, I didn’t answer. She doesn’t leave a message, and I forget to call her back later when I’m at home.

Friday she calls around the same time. This time she leaves a message. It goes something like, “Hey just callin to say Hi. I’m at school and had a break. Love you...later!” After listening to her message, I’m thinking, obviously I don’t need to rush to call her back, there's nothing major going on. I really did intend to call her Friday night though, but I forget...again.

Today, she sends me TWO FB messages, followed up by another phone call...all this morning. This time she left a voice mail message because she’s “worried” about me. I’m like really? You were calling just to say hey and now you’re “worried” because a weekend passed without a return call?? I hate for people to be trying to track me down all of a sudden. It makes me think you want something more than just to catch up.

She has my attention though. I left work early today, so I called her as soon as I came in the house. We talk….or better yet, I listen and she talks, because whenever I say anything she glosses over it and says something like, “oh but wait…let me tell you about blah blah blah…”

Finally, I ask her how’s work going. She tells me she quit her job. Technically she resigned, but the reality is that she QUIT her job to go to school full time. This woman is 39, with two children (11 and 12 years old) and a husband who is disabled as a result of last year's car crash in which both of his legs had to be cut off. And YOU QUIT YOUR JOB????

Because of that car crash, and because hubby was in the hospital for months and because he was the breadwinner and my friend didn’t work…guess who was captain save-a-hoe? Guess who LOANED them money??? Guess who hasn’t seen a damn dime of that money??? AND YOU QUIT YOUR FUCKING JOB?????

I do not understand people…I do not understand people…I just don’t understand!! I was speechless listening to her indignantly tell me how her job didn’t understand how important school was and how they wouldn’t work with her school schedule and how she’d given them two years and this is how they treat her?? Smh

She's goes on to say, “Mummy is helping a lot, and (her husband) gets disability and I’m using the money from school, so umm we’re (she stutters)…we’re managing...somewhat.” She goes on to say that she's really stressed out because money is so tight and lets her voice trail off as she says, "I don't know what we're going to do."

Mmmm hmmmm. First you're OK and now you're in woe-is-me-what-iz-im-gone-do mode? I don’t know if she was about to ask if I can help or what, but I wrapped-up the call and got off the phone.

I love this woman. We’ve been friends for TWENTY YEARS…and in those 20 years, we’ve been through a lot. When I was really young and didn't want to move back home, there was a time when I almost didn't have a roof over my head. She had known me for less than a year, but she helped me. To a degree I feel like I'm always paying her back and I'm just not going to to do it anymore.

Because of her husband's accident (think twice before you drive drunk people), I was OK with helping out. But the game changes now that I know you're doing so friggin well you can up and QUIT YOUR DAMN JOB.

People need to grow up and make better decisions. Quitting your job to go to school full-time when you have a family to support just does not make sense to me, but nobody listens to me until things don’t work out.

I want her to do well and succeed in life. I just wish she made smarter choices. I think I’m just going to stop here…there's really nothing else to say.

Woooossssah!